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Do We Really Need To Share Everything Online?

This is something that has been on my mind for a while now. Something that lies truly to my heart and feelings. Something I haven’t shared with you yet…
Since ’09/’10 I’ve been sharing bits and pieces of my life online. What I wore, what I liked and I even tried to inspire others to be different and embrace their unique appearance – something I struggled with for years in the past. Luckily I found my own vibe and I’m happy who I am. I’m not perfect, but that’s my strength, I guess.

The last few years the online world has been changed and more people sharing more personal things online. Like vlogging their everyday lives to sharing very personal information online for years. While a lot of people hopping on this train I became more closed and enjoyed my private life even more. Yes, of course I’ve got my struggles but I really don’t feel the need to share this with the rest of the world. So yes, there are some things you don’t know about me but this can also be a good thing in my opinion.
Why I’m sharing this now? Because I think it’s also good to hear an other view on things instead of going with the stream. And maybe, you’re struggling with the same thing.

For example. Before my holiday to Bali I really wanted to create the coolest content. But for who? Myself or to show the online world? This got me thinking. People messaged me with the most positive response and asking me to share as much as possible of my Bali trip. Instead of taking this as a task, this felt as a true pressure for me. So I did not, I reduced my posts – not intentionally – and just posted when I wanted and it felt right. This was one of the very first holidays I was more relaxed. Didn’t care how I looked, didn’t made some new outfit looks and didn’t felt the need of showing off. And when I created a cool shot (or shared something) it was something spontaneous – just because I’m a creative girl.

Afterward I got some comments about the fact I lacked in posting during my holiday. My answer: So what! Sorry that I disappointed you but I just was enjoying my free time.

My holiday was just an example but this vibe has been going for a while now. This summer hasn’t been easy due to some tragic news close to me + moving to a new home. Things that can make you out of balance. Things that make you realize of what you are truly doing. So this can result in less insta-stories or posts. But you know, when I do it, it truly comes from the heart.

This post feels a bit of rambling around but I just felt the need to share this. To share a different voice. Sometimes it feels it’s so easy to share everything online while keeping things offline can be the real struggle (for some). Hopefully this can be food for thought for you. What do you think of this? And the over-sharing vibe that’s going on? Let me know!

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  • Sofie

    Oh wauw Joy, couldn’t agree more. Bij alles -allesss- wat je hierboven schrijft zie en voel ik herkenning. De struggle, de druk… Altijd het gevoel hebben iets te moeten plaatsen. Ik merk ook dat ik IG minder leuk vind worden, maar zou het ook niet kunnen missen want haal er ook wegdegelijk inspo vandaan. Laatst kreeg ik ook een opmerking: “hee, waarom heb je heel je huisje nog niet gedeeld? Had ik wel verwacht!”. Tsja, omdat ik gewoon lekker in m’n bubbel zit en het vanzelf wel komt ofzo? Just sayin… I got ya back! En snap je, en deel je mening! Je doet het uiteindelijk voor jezelf en niet voor een ander! ❤️

    Xx Sofie

  • I hear you and I was thinking exactly today about publishing about the same issue, but I actually have so many issues with how things have changed that I can’t even get started! I honestly cannot understand girls who post everything online or more like every single fart they let out or even their toilette paper brand. Honestly, I find it incredibly sickening. It makes me wonder if they started blogging out of a passion to create high quality and creative content that inspires or if they started doing with the only intention to become a celebrity/famous and enjoying all the attention they get (a.k.a. narcissism at its core).

    I actually struggle in posting anything personal, because I take my work seriously and do not see it as an outlet for fame or anything like that, but as an artistic outlet. The worst part about it is that you ARE pressured to post as much as you can, and even what you can’t, because of the new algorithm that ‘likes’ oversharing. It got even worse when Instagram stories got released, because now you are not only pressured to post pictures on your profile, but if you want to perform well, you have to share as many Instagram Stories as possible. Basically everyone is a slave to Instagram now working for content for it 24/7 (I saw a blogger literally posting a story while the camera was on while she was sleeping), which is why most known bloggers have abandoned their blogs (no time for it anymore besides online traffic for blogs decreasing in general). Mark Zuckerberg is the Mao Tse-Tung of the internet and he basically can do whatever he likes with our professions.

    I honestly believe things will change to a slower paced mode, because how things are now: It’s unsustainable. No one can keep up with this and I’m pretty sure we are not the only ones feeling this awful pressure.

    Have a lovely Sunday, babe. x